How I deal with Stress During the Holiday Season
Contributer: Seibo Shen
The holiday season used to really stress me out, I’m not good at organizing, buying gifts, and planning festivities. In addition to that, all my kids and my wife’s birthday are all during the holiday season so there is quite a bit that is going on. I noticed that my cannabis consumption was always higher during the holidays and while it helped, sometimes I would consume a little too much and not be very present for all of our family events. Over the years, I have developed some systems that would help me reduce stress and not just enjoy the holidays more, but enjoy my life more.
Here are a few ways I’ve found to ease holiday stress, stay present, and make the season truly enjoyable:
1. Plan Ahead (But Keep It Simple)
Planning isn’t my strength, but a few simple steps make a big difference. Now, I start with a basic checklist in early November. I list out major tasks like gift buying, any event prep, and important dates. Breaking these tasks down over weeks rather than cramming them all in at once takes the edge off. And I remind myself—simple is enough. You don’t need to throw elaborate parties or buy extravagant gifts; it’s the thought that counts.
2. Practice Mindful Consumption
Cannabis is an effective tool to relieve stress, but I’ve learned to approach it with mindfulness. Before using cannabis, I take a moment to set an intention. This might be to calm my nerves before a family gathering or to relax after a busy day of shopping. By using cannabis mindfully and in moderation, I’ve been able to enjoy its benefits while staying present and connected to my family. If I start feeling detached, I take a break from it for a day or two, so I can reset and remain in tune with the spirit of the season.
3. Carve Out “Me Time”
The holiday season can be a blur of events, but I’ve learned the importance of taking time for myself. Whether it’s an early morning walk, a short meditation session, or just sitting quietly with a cup of coffee, having some “me time” lets me recharge. It’s a reminder that I don’t have to be on all the time. Taking even 15 minutes a day to center myself keeps me grounded and better able to enjoy the busier moments.
4. Say “No” When You Need To
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that I don’t have to say “yes” to every holiday gathering, event, or obligation. Setting boundaries has been key to maintaining my peace of mind. I choose the gatherings and activities that mean the most to me and my family, and if I feel overstretched, I simply say “no.” Prioritizing quality time over quantity has made the holidays feel more meaningful and less draining.
5. Focus on Being Present
The holidays are about connection, so I try to remind myself to stay in the moment. I’ve started leaving my phone in another room or turning it off when we’re having a family dinner or exchanging gifts. By focusing on the people around me and savoring each moment, I feel more fulfilled. Small things like engaging in a conversation, helping my kids bake cookies, or watching holiday movies with the family make the season memorable.
6. Embrace Imperfection
Not everything will go perfectly during the holidays, and that’s okay. In the past, I would stress if things didn’t go as planned. Now, I’ve embraced that sometimes things won’t be perfect, and often, those imperfections create the best memories. The season is about joy and togetherness, not perfection, so I let go of high expectations and enjoy things as they come.
The holidays can be stressful, but they can also be some of the most meaningful times of the year. By making small adjustments and prioritizing presence over perfection, I’ve found that I can manage stress better and connect with the people and moments that matter most. This holiday season, consider taking a little extra time for yourself, being intentional with your habits, and giving yourself permission to enjoy the beauty in the simplicity.
